I CAN Do This!


Be your biggest fan…encourage YOURSELF! Create a personal set of affirmations to speak over your OWN life daily. ‪#‎BeHappy‬

Imagination beckons Presentation … in other words, what you see or believe is pretty much what life hands you…. it delivers what you order. So, why not utilize your God-given authority to help design the life YOU want?! I’ve taken the liberty to offer the following suggestions:

1 – Be CLEAR about what you want; be so clear that you can practically touch it with your mind’s eye. Equally as important, see YOU having it!

2 – Be okay with it … give yourself guilt-free PERMISSION to do and have what you desire. You only get to do this thing called “Life” once, might as well make it good!

3 – Be POSITIVE in creating “Now” statements regarding your goal(s)/desire(s) and use your own words. Your statements can be 3 – 5 one-liners.

For example: “I no longer let others upset me.” Now, that statement is okaaaay but a more positive spin would and should sound something like, “I remain (or I am) calm, centered and focused.”

4 – #BeHappy …THIS, my friends, should be the ultimate goal that we all strive for 🙂

The universe is a place of great abundance and we are all meant to be naturally prosperous, both in material and spiritual wealth, in a way that is balanced and harmonious with one another and with the earth that nourishes us. ~Shakti Gawain

Faithful Fathering: The Fragrance of Life


Originator. Creator. Founder. Instructor. Provider. And though the list could go on, these are but a few nouns that come to mind when I hear the word, FATHER. For anyone who’s interested, ‘father’ just happens to be the first word listed in the Hebrew dictionary … ‘ab’ (pronounced, awb) –imagine that! My guess is that it has to do with the familial order established by God the Father, during creation week. Father, Man, then Husband–each role personifying the loving and protective nature(s) of our Creator.

Biologically-speaking, we know that fathers submit genetic instructions via DNA and they also possess the innate power to influence gender by simply releasing an X or Y chromosome. But, existentially-speaking, true fathering is so much more than the substance of heredity. For it is the father whom God charged with imparting wisdom and confidence along with a sense of safety and direction to his children. Proverbs 4:1 begins by asserting, Listen, my sons, to a father’s instruction; pay attention and gain understanding (NIV). Essentially, true fathering supplies the very framework to build and support all human life.

Bear with me as I switch gears for a moment to point out how blended families represent an astounding percentage of our society; I recently discovered through the Stepfamily Association of America, that more than half of Americans today have been, are now or will eventually be in one or more step (family) situations during their lives (Larson, 1992). I believe that good fathers and particularly, good stepfathers do exist but are too seldom spotlighted or openly celebrated for their commitment or love and guidance poured into the life of a child that isn’t theirs naturally. But, even in the matter of blended families, however, what has been done is what will be done; there is nothing new under the sun–Ecclesiastes 1:9 (Holman Christian Standard) and even step-parenting is nothing new.

The most venerated example of a stepfather to date is Joseph, the man assigned to serve as the earthly father to Jesus Christ. During what we would consider today a their engagement period, Joseph discovers Mary is going to have a baby–and he knew he had never been intimate with her. A simple man in love, Joseph wasn’t up for scandal or public scrutiny and initially decided he would break his engagement to Mary in secrecy. Assuming Mary’s condition was evidence of her unfaithfulness, Joseph–by law–was well within his rights to break it off. But, here’s the catch, if you will; Joseph, a man with true heart and dedication, had been hand-picked, chosen just as Mary had been, to be a catalyst for ushering in the new covenant God would have with His people. The Greek definition of chosen (eklektos) is to be elected, favored, preferred. That’s a powerful testament to the immense integrity of Joseph’s character and how much he had apparently impressed the heart of God.

Enlightened by an angel as he slept, Joseph was given the details concerning Mary and was dissuaded from jumping ship (Matthew 1:18-25). Armed with spiritual insight and an affinity toward both his woman and his God, Joseph protected Mary, her reputation and our unborn Savior. Joseph gallantly embraced his calling as a father long before he held a baby in his arms. He made sacrificial provisions to ensure Mary’s well-being and in all this, Joseph’s role remains a pivotal one in aiding the delivery of God’s promise into the earth. He was the kind of stepfather that we unfortunately don’t hear much about today in blended family accounts and the same kind that even many biological fathers should take note to emulate.

For those fathers who hold up the banner of manhood and Godliness before the ever-watchful eyes of their children (natural or not) and to those who wish they could but for many reasons cannot, I wish you a blessed Father’s Day. You are indeed, to God, the aroma of Christ–the very fragrance of life (2 Corinthians 2:15).

Copyrighted May 2006 Dr. Vivi Monroe Congress

CHANGE – August 19, 2014


Think about the people you interact with; take a few moments to reflect on how they make you feel. Even though it may not always seem we have much control over who we’re with, we do. The power to step back from toxicity lies within you. The moment we’re honest with ourselves about our own feelings, the more candid we can be with others about how they make us feel and the part they will play in our lives in order to cultivate healthy relationships and release those that aren’t.change-for-love

CHANGE – August 6, 2014


“Many of us have been negatively conditioned regarding money. As we understand our ancestral patterns, we learn how to balance this tendency and create some spaciousness within which to create a paradigm shift (aka CHANGE) in our lives. When we heal and undo the old programming we’ll uncover our own path towards financial wellness, generosity, and prosperity consciousness.”
~ Spencer Sherman & Brent Kessel (portions taken from ‘Heal Your Money Karma’ an on-line course)

DECLARE: My desired relationship to money is one which nourishes the spirit and allows for a life of grace, mindfulness, joy, abundance and charity.money

CHANGE – August 5, 2014


Say what you need to say. Speak your truth. There’s no greater sadness than holding onto the words you never had the courage to speak OR speaking words that negatively impact your own life. Monitor and if necessary, CHANGE your words.

DECLARE: All CHANGE-s in my life are of my own creation…http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DmE3a__x0qs

CHANGE – August 1, 2014


Life is happening right now and must be attended to; there is so much to be enjoyed and appreciated that we need to remember to pay attention to the present moment, because it is the only space in which we can experience being alive.

DECLARE: I create a happier life by adapting to the CHANGE-ing world around me…change 8-1